In the garden and in every phase of our life we all face obstacles. Some only slow us down; others stop us dead in our tracks. And then there’s the total knockout that puts us down for the count.
#1 – It’s Not the Event That Shapes Your Future
Most of us don’t look forward to unpleasantness in any form. I know I don’t.
It seems however, to be a fact of life that if you can deal with the situation by walking through it and looking for opportunities, you build an inner strength and fortitude that enables you to bounce back more quickly and easily in the future. And —possibly survive the current situation better than you went in.
For it’s not the event that will shape our future. But rather the thought process we use to get past the obstacle and find opportunities to improve our lives in spite of an unavoidable setback.
Whatever the obstacle, there are ways to deal with it that will shape your world for the better.
#2 – Requirement: You Have To Want To — And That Might Take Some Time
In most cases, “wanting to look for the good in a bad situation” is a lot easier to talk about than it is to do. Especially just after it happens.
Anger, fear, sadness, and frustration can be normal responses depending on the severity of the problem.
We need time to process what’s happened or is happening to us. Once we come to terms with the situation, we can better decide how to proceed.
#3 – Knowing This Fact Helps Us to See How Important It Is to Move in a Positive Direction
Fact: Negative feelings, thoughts, and reactions take a lot of energy and PREVENT (or at the very least hinder) the good outcome you want.
For years I had trouble with depression and sinking to the depths of despair when a seemingly insurmountable obstacle arose. I saw the situation in the worse possible light and thought the way I was seeing it was 100% accurate.
Those thoughts did nothing but drain my energy and make me feel worse. Once I changed my negative direction and looked for opportunities within the problem, even if it was halfheartedly, things started to improve.
Eventually, Bill and I formed the habit of giving ourselves time to process what was happening and then immediately thereafter looking for possible benefits and opportunities within the problem. From there we could better determine a strategy to deal with the situation.
Once looking for the benefits and opportunities within the problem is a habit, it’s automatic. And that makes life a lot easier.
#4 – The Influence of Others – Those You Keep Company with, What You Read, What You Watch
People we choose to spend time with (be it family or friends) make a huge difference in success or failure in every area of our life. If you want to be – successful, positive, healthy, happy, etc. – surround yourself with people who have the qualities you want for yourself.
Those who are negative, unsupportive, and drain your energy will do you harm.
They influence your attitude. Attitude determines our thinking and behavior on which success or failure in overcoming any obstacle ultimately depends.
What we read and what we watch (movies,etc) also impacts our thinking and behavior. They’ll have the same influence as people we associate with.
You have to make the choices.
And as I mentioned in a previous post: make no mistake, no matter how small it might seem, every decision and choice is taking you towards your goal or away from your goal.
#5 – Take the Action Best for You
Gather whatever information you need to formulate a plan to resolve whatever difficulty you’re facing and then take action.
Remember, there will always be someone with an opinion about what your course of action should be. And although it seldom hurts to listen, no one really knows your situation like you do. You’re the only one who can decide on the best course of action to take.
Don’t fall prey to the “instant gratification” and “quick fix” mindset that is highly promoted in our society. Often the best solutions are ones that take time.
Just because you don’t see immediate results doesn’t mean that what you’re doing is ineffective.
A good strategy coupled with consistent action pays off.
These 5 points have helped me get through a lot of difficulties over the years, including the one I’m experiencing now.
I hope they’ll be helpful in getting you through whatever obstacles you face now and in the future, be they great or small.
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